I Skipped Our Wedding Anniversary for My Sister’s Childbirth — My Wife Made Me a Nasty Surprise

This year was supposed to be special—our tenth anniversary. We had planned a weekend getaway, just the two of us, to celebrate the milestone. Emily had been looking forward to it for months, and I was excited too. But then, a week before our trip, I got a call from my younger sister, Sarah, who lives in a different state. She was expecting her first child, and she was nervous about giving birth alone. Her husband, Mike, is a military officer and was deployed overseas, so she was going to be alone for the birth. Sarah asked if I could be there for her when the baby came, and I knew from the tone of her voice that she really needed me.”Tom has decided to go to his sister on his marriage anniversary.Tom revealed, “The day of our anniversary came, and instead of being on a romantic getaway with Emily, I was in the delivery room with Sarah, holding her hand as she brought her daughter into the world. It was an incredible moment, and I was grateful to be there for her. But at the same time, I felt a pang of guilt knowing that Emily was at home, probably still angry with me. When I got back a week later, I expected the cold shoulder, and maybe a few days of tension, but what I didn’t expect was the way Emily would take her revenge. When I walked into the house, I was shocked to see it completely empty—Emily had packed up and left. There was a note on the kitchen table that said, ’You missed our anniversary. Now, let’s see how it feels when someone you love isn’t there when you need them.’” Emily left him completely alone.“I was shocked and devastated. I tried calling her, but she wouldn’t pick up. I texted, sent emails, and even went to her best friend’s house, but no one would tell me where she was. I was left alone, not knowing what to do or how to fix things.” Tom continued, “After three days of silence, I came home from work to find Emily sitting on the couch. She looked calm, but I could tell she was still hurt. She told me that she needed me to understand how it felt to be left behind, how lonely it was to be ignored on a day that was supposed to be about us. She said she didn’t want to leave me for good, but she needed me to realize how much I had hurt her.”Now Tom is upset with how Emily behaved.“Then, she dropped the twist I never saw coming. Emily told me she had spent those three days staying at a hotel near the hospital where Sarah gave birth. She had been there the whole time, watching from a distance. She even visited Sarah after I left, bringing flowers and congratulating her on the baby. Emily wanted to show me that she wasn’t heartless, that she cared about my family too, but that she was deeply hurt by my decision. She wanted me to feel what it was like to be left out of something important, just like she had been.” Tom concluded, “I didn’t know what to say. I was torn between feeling guilty for hurting Emily and being upset that she would go to such lengths to teach me a lesson. It’s been a few weeks since this happened, and while we’ve talked things through, there’s still a distance between us that wasn’t there before. I’m struggling with how to move past this and whether I made the right choice in the first place. Did I really do something so wrong, or was Emily’s reaction too extreme?Special occasions offer a wonderful opportunity for family bonding and joy. However, they can also bring about stress, particularly when family members have unresolved conflicts. Amanda’s husband has asked their daughter to skip his birthday celebration due to ongoing issues with his own daughter, who will be attending the event.Tom continued, “Sarah and I have always been close. Growing up, it was just the two of us and our mom, and I took on a protective role after our dad passed away. I was there for her through everything—graduations, breakups, her wedding—and I couldn’t imagine not being there for her when she needed me most. So, when she called, I knew I had to go. I broke the news to Emily, thinking she would understand, but she didn’t take it well. She got upset as this meant that I would skip the wedding anniversary. She said that our anniversary was important too and that I was choosing my sister over her. I tried to explain that it was just one year, that we could celebrate later, but she was hurt and felt like I was abandoning her. We argued about it, but in the end, I told her that I couldn’t leave Sarah alone at such a critical time and I went anyway.” His wife prepared an unpleasant surprise when he got back home.